No one ever truly settles down
Life never becomes less demanding; only your priorities become clearer
One of the most challenging aspects of adulthood and maturity lies in decision-making.
In the event of a difficult situation, knowing what to do, who to talk to, and where to go. Decision-making is the hallmark of adulting.
Our parents made decisions that, some of them, might still be affecting our lives today. Indeed, we should not be afraid of mistakes because we can learn from them, but not all mistakes allow you to learn from them “easily” and without dire consequences.
For instance, you can’t make the mistake of marrying wrongly and hope to learn from it “easily.” The battles you’d have to fight alone in that marriage can set you ten years back.
One of the most disturbing things I’ve heard in my life is when folks say something like,
“I regret marrying this person; they ruined my life.”
What of folks who made decisions to leave their work and “answer God’s call” that wasn’t “God’s call?” Down the road, they would find out that they never heard God. All they had was zeal and immaturity.
Well, it’s a noble thing to serve the Lord, but you must be sure of what you heard. This world is a harsh place that punishes ignorance ruthlessly.
On the other hand, we have folks who decided they were going to get remotely comfortable first before they could begin ministry or life, but life had other plans for them. Someone was telling me last week how he wanted to “hustle” first before settling down to serve the Lord.
And I said to him,
“Do you think you’d ever settle? Look around you. Who has settled down? Have your parents stopped hustling?”
“Have you ever heard that the richest man stopped working because he had now made so much money?”
Oh, if it were that simple, everyone would be doing that. And that’s how you’d be settling down; days will turn to weeks, weeks to months, and months to years. Before you look back, 20 years had gone by.
“No one” ever truly settles down.
That time will never come.
The way I like to see the world and life is this:
Just as breathing is constant, so is your walk with the Lord.
You don’t say, “Let me stop breathing for now and do this and come back later to breathe.”
Rather, you breathe primarily and then do other things on the side. Likewise, your walk with the Lord should be the only constant thing in your life.
You serve the Lord Jesus primarily, and then you do other things on the side. It is from this plane you make all decisions.
Well, that doesn’t mean it’s now going to be easy, though.
It’s still one of those things about adulting.
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