We cannot decide by ourselves what we want
You keep blaming Adam, but you’re committing the same sin as Adam
Many people blame Adam for sinning and bringing condemnation on humanity, but one thing they fail to realize is that the case might have been the same if it were you or me who was the first man.
Before you argue, hear me out.
Adam rebelled against God’s command and dominion. He did not obey God’s word, and he did not believe the instructions he was given, so he fell into the life of man without the control of God.
Do you realize one of the most difficult things to do is to tell man what to do?
Do you realize that there is this craving for lawlessness in everyone?
Junior pastors don’t want to submit to their seniors. Members are finding it difficult to obey their pastors. They wish they could be left to do as they please. Accountability is a very difficult thing for man. We want freedom. We don’t want to be told what to do. We have pushed for independence to the point where we don’t want to be responsible for anybody or anything.
“No gree for anybody” has its good applications, but in it is also a knowledge and freedom to do as you please without considering how it affects others. You just want to have what you want without letting anyone tell you you can’t have it. You don’t want your parents asking where you have been since morning. You don’t want your roommates to know if you’re living a good life or not. You don’t want anyone to choose your circle for you. You want to do it all by yourself and be fully responsible for yourself in an unhealthy way.
“I can read the Bible myself”
“I can know God for myself”
(No, you cannot).
You dislike it when people give you things. You don’t want to receive anything from anyone.
“Let it be said that my power has given me this.”
In all I’ve listed, some exceptions and cases do not apply.
Humanity always wants to be free.
The question is, free from what? Are you in bondage?
How do you define accountability as bondage?
How do you define dependency as bondage?
How do you define learning or submitting to others as bondage?
That’s why we now have issues of who to cook in a family. The issue is not as much as saying “cooking is not a gender role.”
We know that, but the question is, why are you saying it?
Sometimes if you don’t look well, you won’t see the underlying issues. You’d see some lady championing women’s rights, equality, this and that.
My question has always been, “Why are you pushing for equality?”
If you’re doing so from a defensive mindset, you’re still among the problems we are having. Yes, women’s submission in a home is not to become a slave of the man; we understand that, but what is your own motive for saying it?
Freedom? Lack of accountability?
If you’re not championing these things from the love of God’s Word being done but because you don’t want to submit under a man, you’re another accident waiting to happen.
I was once a strong feminist. So you should know I don’t in any way support male dominance. But I packed that up and threw it away. Why? The motive is not truth. It is good, but it is not coming from an understanding of God’s Word. It was coming from societal sentiments.
I also drifted to the side of being an alpha male. But again, that wasn’t truth from God’s Word, and it had to be dumped also.
You must realize that no belief system or ideology is neutral. If the spirit behind a belief system is not God, it is corrupted, no matter how right-sounding it is.
So, dear woman, while you’re shouting yes! to: “Women are rising that won’t take no for an answer,” make sure you’re shouting because you want to see God’s will be done and not because you think cooking for your man means he’s dominating you.
As a wife, you should prepare meals for your husband and family. Just as you would for everyone else. He deserves it. He’s your head and your covering. As a man, shamelessly protect and defend your woman as you would everyone else. She deserves all your care. She’s your bride, and you’re to nourish and feed her. And before you try to redefine “nourishing” as only a spiritual activity, I hope you know that if physical nourishment is such a big deal for a man, then he cannot be trusted to provide the more difficult form of nourishment: that of the soul and emotion.
So, I ask again,
How did we define learning or submitting to others as bondage?
I once said that the goal of independence is interdependence. Independence should bring us to that place where we need each other to supply what the other lacks. That way, we are all one bundle of weaklings alone but a formidable force together.
Why do you want to build a brand all by yourself?
Why not partner and work in shared spaces?
My sacred moments should bring me to a place where I can cohabit with others in a beautiful synergy.
But we often love solo living.
“Let no one tell me what to do.”
That’s what Adam wanted.
“Let me be the one who calls the shots.”
Look where it landed him.
Question: Why should we be submitted to a higher power?
Answer: Because we were created. Someone made us. We didn’t make ourselves. So we cannot determine our purpose.
We cannot decide by ourselves what we want. We cannot even know what we want. The one who made us must tell us what we want.
You keep blaming Adam, but you’re committing the same sin as Adam.
Now that you’re a believer, you still don’t want to submit to God’s word. You still feel trapped in God’s laws. You sincerely wish you could live as you like, though saved.
In all ways, we could have done the same thing Adam did.
Make peace with it in your heart that you didn’t create yourself and so you cannot know your purpose or destiny.
You cannot determine all by yourself the reason you’re here, billions of miles away from the sun.